Oh what a beautiful day it has been at Farming On Faith. The birds are singing, the frogs are croaking, the fish are jumping and I enjoyed a day at home. I started my day by treating myself to biscuits and gravy and devotions on my porch~ no way that could not lead to a great day.
Philippians 1:6
Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:
When I was a new bride to my Brian~ we got along well but there were some areas we soon learned that we did not agree on. It was a huge lesson to me that no matter how much I tried to get him to see it my way~ I could not. It was the beginning of my journey of understanding to agree to disagree.
As my children have reached adulthood I soon realized that they begin to see things a bit different than I do. Ouch~ I don't like that even more than my Brian not getting my way of thinking. I mean after all don't they know that I carried them and came close to death's door to get them into this world so that they could have opinions at all. I "get it" that they have grown up and deserve their own way of thinking but in my core being I want them to think more like I think.
Why? Because when my children have different views it makes me feel disconnected from all that we used to be. Is it not safer to agree? Doesn't agreement mean harmony and confidence that the mental leash between mother and child has not been yanked from my hands.
Oh if only life could be so simple. Yet~ I have learned that my father and I did not agree on many things. My mother and I don't always see eye to eye.(I have to say my Brian and I seem to have grown into one in agreement on most all things. Thank the Lord for not so small favors.) Now I am seeing that I need to give my children the same licence.
I love all these people in my life. I have come to realize that the greatest respect I can give to those I love ~ not just my parents, my husband, my children but with anyone that I disagree with is to choose to agree to disagree. In doing so ~ I preserve the dignity and right of all persons to be who they are and how they have come to believe.
Scripture tells me that God has began a good work in my husband~my children and me and that He will continue to finish that work. That will happen when Jesus returns~ or we beat Him to it by entering eternity.
That means we can release the mental leash on all those we love ~ and let people be themselves. Someone much wiser than I holds my children in the palm of His hands ~ and that means we will never lose connection.
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